Hey, just so you know, at least one person cares. You're more important than you realize, and your life is beautiful despite what you might think right now. Nothing is random, everything has meaning if you can redefine your paradigm aligned with the truth. remember, culture is not your friend. Maybe check out the cosmic giggle on YouTube, go read Behold a pale horse...or the secret teachings of all ages, or let Graham Hancock show you a question for the lost Civilizations here on Earth... The world is beautiful and whimsical, you just have to remember how to see it that way. Namaste.
Everytime I read something like this, I fantasize about being born among the genetic elite and naively thinking the world was as fair and beautiful as my own life is.
Your rant is suicide fuel btw, it reminds me of the blind optimism I could have experienced if I wasn't born a subhuman
Let me prove I care before being so dismissive? I don't understand this "subculture" it's almost like no one wants to hear of optimism...and the goal is mindless self pity? Not good guys. You're all valuable beautiful people. Regardless of the programming. It seems like you guys hate it when people invalidate your opinions of Minal self worth etc. Fascinating. But fixable. You're all worth it, and you're all beautiful people. Final opinion.
Mozzer dozzer, you are loved. And you are beautiful in your own way. I'll keep trying this so long as I draw breath. We are all one human family and we're here to lift each other up, despite what the corporate feudal state, Zionists, cabals, or any other fucks may think. Love is our legacy and our direction as a species.
Thats rude...because it is genuine...one human family you know. So is this sub just for grumpy people full of mindless self pity that don't want anyone to be nice to them? How peculiar.
Look man I appreciate the write up but i’ll be honest if a person was dead set on to actually kill themselves not only would you have no idea if they died but your comment wouldn’t affect he/she. That’s the reason people are attacking you in the comments.
That’s why people often claim virtue signaling. You don’t know anybody personally here and you wouldn’t if you passed them on the street unless you made assumptions based on what they look like.
One reddit comment in the grand scheme of things is not going to makeup for all the shitty things some people here have endured their entire life and insults, for people that are suicidal (not necessarily saying me) but a life of bullying and being looked at as less than other people because of just how your genetics of your family lined you up to be is a very cruel thing to endure constantly and it’s not even behind people’s backs most of the time it is usually to their face.
Truthfully...I think every attempt helps. It doesn't matter if we know one another right now, or if we would recognize each other on the street tomorrow, the truer aspects of this discussion revolve around the fact that despite all preconceived notions, there are people out there...total strangers in fact, that see you as family simply because you are a sentient human being and deserve the same grace and respect that anyone else here does. It doesn't matter what our backwards societies or the corporate feudal state and it's expectations and plastic people have said, or how much bullying has happened in the past. There is no wrong time for healing and compassion. By putting myself out here like this, despite a plethora of angry and grumpy people throwing their stones at these messages and reminding me it's pointless, the truth doesn't change, and the original intent doesn't change...these messages serve as empirical evidence that despite all odds, even if it's just one weirdo, people care and you are loved. No, my words may not stop a single suicide or a single grandstanding attempt at self pity, they aren't meant to for those folks, but by taking the time to message those that feel the need to exclaim their pain, their pain is validated in a more realistic sense, and healing becomes more immediately accessible. One of our greatest gifts as beings is our ability to unconditionally exist in the love vibration...when we look close enough at the base nature of our reality, we realize that there is only one vibration, one consciousness with an infinite number of fractal expressions experiencing every possible scenario (go check out the amplituhedron in the context of the merkaba, or superclusters, or the regularity of the CMB, or the echos of Phi in your body/nature, or the mechanical stator motor of the flagella or perhaps an ATP synthase...this place is fucking amazing, and the proofs are everywhere if we can open our hearts and minds to the endless possibilities). If 5,000 grumpy sad people throw stones and only one finds self love and gets to a point they can heal, then all of this malarkey is worth it. I believe it isn't only possible, but inevitable. And I appreciate you taking the time to type out what you did...it seems hopeless, but the most difficult/worthwhile puzzles often do until we come across the solutions.
I am telling you from a person who has clinical depression since he was in 6th grade diagnosed and on medication since, half my life. Things like what you’re saying work in practice but real people need a real personal connection like legitimately have someone who knows you tell you that you matter and the such. Which unfortunately doesn’t happen until it’s too late
Yeah yeah, they diagnosed me with the same thing years ago, and I feel for you. Truthfully, it's all a farce, and the DSM is a load of worthless shit in terms of actual human development and healing...it isn't about that. It's all beatable...truth be told, we're all stronger than you would imagine, and certainly stronger than they'll have you believe. Check out what I sent you and perhaps take time to uderstand where these diagnoses come from, and how they can shape our definitions of self etc.
Ngl you just lost my respect buddy you obviously don’t have depression lol. Just truly lol if you think I haven’t tried to stop being depressed I don’t mop along all day but I get no joy out of anything. Honestly man stop preaching to me mental health is real I didn’t need the fucking diagnoses to tell me i have depression you just would’ve had to talk to me a few times to realize. Seriously shut the fuck up you don’t know my background me or anything, the only reason I even mentioned I was diagnosed is because people don’t think you’re actually depressed like you have just stated. You’re pathetic, millions of people have depression regardless of a diagnoses or not people who don’t even know the terms.
No, seriously. I did, and no, I don't anymore... because I beat it. Because it's beatable. You can be grumpy or try to move on from it, Your call, im not trying to preach so much as poke this subreddit with a stick to see if I can help some folks out with the truth, I've never seen such a self defeated group and I feel for you as a collective. About metal illness...yeah the truth is, its all based on cultural impressions of sanity, which is not objective outside any one particular culture, it's all smoke and mirrors. The truth is we create our own reality. If something didn't work, well, try different things, maybe try what I suggested. Or not. It makes no difference to me. Have a good day either way.
Dude. For the last time I’ve tried it I’ve tried convincing myself of all the shit you say and at the end of the day it’s all smoke and mirrors as well, do you not see what you’re saying? I can tell myself I’m happy I can convince myself I’m not depressed all I want but It’s masking the true problem let’s get rid of the fucking term depression guess what I’m still fucking not happy beyond belief now stop replying to me you’re not doing anything
Hey there, well this is a valid point I think. Depression is an irrelevant term. Perhaps watch those vids I sent over your way, I think there's a lot in there that can help at least get us in a direction we can rediscover the beauty in ourselves and reach a state of unconditional self love. This isn't something that happens instantly, you just have to remember to stick with it. Take the help it if arrives instead of getting angry etc.
Gonna ruin a good joke by taking it seriously, but that's 100% seriously the reason I don't own a gun. The next time I was sitting on my couch thinking about how shitty my life is and how much shit has yet to come would be the last.
I'm a huge pussy, anxious and afraid of unfamiliar things. I was the kid who'd lift one foot up to jump off the tall diving board but then hesitate and put it down again and then try again over and over, unable to finish, getting increasingly humiliated and self-hating as he stood there making an ass of himself while everyone watched. I'm not any different as an adult.
If I had a gun, though, I'd just need to get over my inhibitions for the single millisecond it would take to pull the trigger. And I only need to do it once. I get why so many suicides are associated with drugs and booze--sometimes all there is between being alive and being dead is that one thread of self-preservation, you know?
I feel ya yeah this was a joke thread but I feel ya. I could only kill myself if it was in the heat of the moment I’m scared of the unknown (death) what if its worst than real life?
I don't believe in any afterlife, but I'm still terrified of dying even though it doesn't make any sense. Obviously if you cease to exist you aren't around afterward like, "agh I don't exist and it sucks!", but it's still hard to even think about it.
You can only experience being. You can't experience not being. Whatever quirk about the universe that experiences being has been doing it for a lot longer than you or I have been alive and does it in many bodies one at a time and concurrently. It's nuts. But as I said, there is no knowing what not being is. Even if you are the only being that is was and ever will be, you will only know being. If you cease to be until the heat death of the universe you'll wake up in the next one whatever it may be. I don't think you'll have knowledge of this one, but many would argue you would.
Of course you can experience not being, and we all already did.
The universe has been around for billions of years before we were born. Know how that felt? Yep, that's what the after life feels like too: a complete lack of existence, painless too.
If you aim right and use a large caliber. Hopefully don't just end up shooting yourself in the face and end up living, permanently disfigured and blinded/brain damaged etc.
You jerk your gun hand away at the last millisecond...now you are still alive but with only one eye, and three teef. SWAT kills your dog/cat, and beat you into a coma. You awake in a mental institution...tied to a rusty old bed that smells like poop. @nofuture
fuck, this is very similar to myself. There was an instance a while ago where I wanted to purchase a firearm for personal defense, but I realized that if I had a gun in my house for over a couple months I probably would have killed myself already. So I decided to not purchase one out of fear.
Yeah, and what if you keep booze in the house too? I read somewhere that 30% of people who kill or try to kill themselves are drunk when they do it. It's easy to see how lowered inhibitions might be the thing that pushes you through that last bit of lizard brain self-preservation. I might not even be planning it, but if I got drunk, started thinking about how shitty my life is...it would only take a second.
What I don't get is I would choose anything over suicide. Like instead of killing yourself why not move to a carribean island and just smoke weed and drink all day. Gotta be better than being dead
You underestimate how locked up your guns need to be. You'd have to get up, go to the safe, open it, go to another safe to get ammo, open that, remove the trigger lock, and then and only then shoot yourself.
I live in the US, there's no laws about any of that. When I was touring my house before I bought it, the current owner literally had 6 different rifles in his bedroom closet leaning against the wall.
im having a hard time coping, i cant get a girl and when i do she cheats on me. I mog most guys in every department possible, I dont know what more women want. Brothers I work with this muslim girl, i think i may convert to islam to be with her, islam seems to be the only way I can find a partner. Unfortunetly pol has psyoped me into being a neo nazi so this is a hard choice, I think whites have lost, our women are lose and we castrate ourselves. Goodbye west, hello islam.
I don't believe in any afterlife, but I'm still terrified of dying even though it doesn't make any sense. Obviously if you cease to exist you aren't around afterward like, "agh I don't exist and it sucks!", but it's still hard to even think about it.
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1 MrFantasticFNV 2018-05-05
Do it.
1 itsbeenover 2018-05-05
lmfao ye
1 qwep-mi 2018-05-05
Whats the difference between suicide and "brutally killing yourself"
1 fuckup-nomore 2018-05-05
Clickbait
1 itsbeenover 2018-05-05
it's obviously clickbait, that guy is low iq
1 fuckup-nomore 2018-05-05
It’s over for lowiqcels
1 incelthrowaway9001 2018-05-05
I would never brutally kill myself, but I would commit suicide.
1 chadbhava 2018-05-05
Why is there yet another surge of threads that doesnt make any sense
1 fuckup-nomore 2018-05-05
Says you
1 Citizensunderwriter 2018-05-05
Hey, just so you know, at least one person cares. You're more important than you realize, and your life is beautiful despite what you might think right now. Nothing is random, everything has meaning if you can redefine your paradigm aligned with the truth. remember, culture is not your friend. Maybe check out the cosmic giggle on YouTube, go read Behold a pale horse...or the secret teachings of all ages, or let Graham Hancock show you a question for the lost Civilizations here on Earth... The world is beautiful and whimsical, you just have to remember how to see it that way. Namaste.
1 bcat124 2018-05-05
Everytime I read something like this, I fantasize about being born among the genetic elite and naively thinking the world was as fair and beautiful as my own life is.
Your rant is suicide fuel btw, it reminds me of the blind optimism I could have experienced if I wasn't born a subhuman
1 MozzerDozzer 2018-05-05
You grandstand, you don't care.
1 Citizensunderwriter 2018-05-05
Let me prove I care before being so dismissive? I don't understand this "subculture" it's almost like no one wants to hear of optimism...and the goal is mindless self pity? Not good guys. You're all valuable beautiful people. Regardless of the programming. It seems like you guys hate it when people invalidate your opinions of Minal self worth etc. Fascinating. But fixable. You're all worth it, and you're all beautiful people. Final opinion.
1 MozzerDozzer 2018-05-05
Sure, it's not like you're going to disappoint me again, as people like you always do.
Awww yisss, so much for caring.
I take "banal compliments" for 50, Alex.
Don't try this again, "beautiful person", not now not ever. It doesn't suit you.
1 Citizensunderwriter 2018-05-05
Mozzer dozzer, you are loved. And you are beautiful in your own way. I'll keep trying this so long as I draw breath. We are all one human family and we're here to lift each other up, despite what the corporate feudal state, Zionists, cabals, or any other fucks may think. Love is our legacy and our direction as a species.
1 deadmedium 2018-05-05
you clearly dont care or you wouldnt be shoving your meaningless "optimism" and platitudes in the face of those who dont want it.
non-genuine kindness is far more painful than just being mean.
1 Citizensunderwriter 2018-05-05
Thats rude...because it is genuine...one human family you know. So is this sub just for grumpy people full of mindless self pity that don't want anyone to be nice to them? How peculiar.
1 fuckup-nomore 2018-05-05
Look man I appreciate the write up but i’ll be honest if a person was dead set on to actually kill themselves not only would you have no idea if they died but your comment wouldn’t affect he/she. That’s the reason people are attacking you in the comments. That’s why people often claim virtue signaling. You don’t know anybody personally here and you wouldn’t if you passed them on the street unless you made assumptions based on what they look like. One reddit comment in the grand scheme of things is not going to makeup for all the shitty things some people here have endured their entire life and insults, for people that are suicidal (not necessarily saying me) but a life of bullying and being looked at as less than other people because of just how your genetics of your family lined you up to be is a very cruel thing to endure constantly and it’s not even behind people’s backs most of the time it is usually to their face.
1 Citizensunderwriter 2018-05-05
Truthfully...I think every attempt helps. It doesn't matter if we know one another right now, or if we would recognize each other on the street tomorrow, the truer aspects of this discussion revolve around the fact that despite all preconceived notions, there are people out there...total strangers in fact, that see you as family simply because you are a sentient human being and deserve the same grace and respect that anyone else here does. It doesn't matter what our backwards societies or the corporate feudal state and it's expectations and plastic people have said, or how much bullying has happened in the past. There is no wrong time for healing and compassion. By putting myself out here like this, despite a plethora of angry and grumpy people throwing their stones at these messages and reminding me it's pointless, the truth doesn't change, and the original intent doesn't change...these messages serve as empirical evidence that despite all odds, even if it's just one weirdo, people care and you are loved. No, my words may not stop a single suicide or a single grandstanding attempt at self pity, they aren't meant to for those folks, but by taking the time to message those that feel the need to exclaim their pain, their pain is validated in a more realistic sense, and healing becomes more immediately accessible. One of our greatest gifts as beings is our ability to unconditionally exist in the love vibration...when we look close enough at the base nature of our reality, we realize that there is only one vibration, one consciousness with an infinite number of fractal expressions experiencing every possible scenario (go check out the amplituhedron in the context of the merkaba, or superclusters, or the regularity of the CMB, or the echos of Phi in your body/nature, or the mechanical stator motor of the flagella or perhaps an ATP synthase...this place is fucking amazing, and the proofs are everywhere if we can open our hearts and minds to the endless possibilities). If 5,000 grumpy sad people throw stones and only one finds self love and gets to a point they can heal, then all of this malarkey is worth it. I believe it isn't only possible, but inevitable. And I appreciate you taking the time to type out what you did...it seems hopeless, but the most difficult/worthwhile puzzles often do until we come across the solutions.
1 fuckup-nomore 2018-05-05
I am telling you from a person who has clinical depression since he was in 6th grade diagnosed and on medication since, half my life. Things like what you’re saying work in practice but real people need a real personal connection like legitimately have someone who knows you tell you that you matter and the such. Which unfortunately doesn’t happen until it’s too late
1 Citizensunderwriter 2018-05-05
Yeah yeah, they diagnosed me with the same thing years ago, and I feel for you. Truthfully, it's all a farce, and the DSM is a load of worthless shit in terms of actual human development and healing...it isn't about that. It's all beatable...truth be told, we're all stronger than you would imagine, and certainly stronger than they'll have you believe. Check out what I sent you and perhaps take time to uderstand where these diagnoses come from, and how they can shape our definitions of self etc.
https://youtu.be/IgCpa1RlSdQ
1 fuckup-nomore 2018-05-05
Ngl you just lost my respect buddy you obviously don’t have depression lol. Just truly lol if you think I haven’t tried to stop being depressed I don’t mop along all day but I get no joy out of anything. Honestly man stop preaching to me mental health is real I didn’t need the fucking diagnoses to tell me i have depression you just would’ve had to talk to me a few times to realize. Seriously shut the fuck up you don’t know my background me or anything, the only reason I even mentioned I was diagnosed is because people don’t think you’re actually depressed like you have just stated. You’re pathetic, millions of people have depression regardless of a diagnoses or not people who don’t even know the terms.
1 Citizensunderwriter 2018-05-05
No, seriously. I did, and no, I don't anymore... because I beat it. Because it's beatable. You can be grumpy or try to move on from it, Your call, im not trying to preach so much as poke this subreddit with a stick to see if I can help some folks out with the truth, I've never seen such a self defeated group and I feel for you as a collective. About metal illness...yeah the truth is, its all based on cultural impressions of sanity, which is not objective outside any one particular culture, it's all smoke and mirrors. The truth is we create our own reality. If something didn't work, well, try different things, maybe try what I suggested. Or not. It makes no difference to me. Have a good day either way.
1 fuckup-nomore 2018-05-05
Dude. For the last time I’ve tried it I’ve tried convincing myself of all the shit you say and at the end of the day it’s all smoke and mirrors as well, do you not see what you’re saying? I can tell myself I’m happy I can convince myself I’m not depressed all I want but It’s masking the true problem let’s get rid of the fucking term depression guess what I’m still fucking not happy beyond belief now stop replying to me you’re not doing anything
1 Citizensunderwriter 2018-05-05
Hey there, well this is a valid point I think. Depression is an irrelevant term. Perhaps watch those vids I sent over your way, I think there's a lot in there that can help at least get us in a direction we can rediscover the beauty in ourselves and reach a state of unconditional self love. This isn't something that happens instantly, you just have to remember to stick with it. Take the help it if arrives instead of getting angry etc.
1 AlexanderQadim 2018-05-05
Gonna ruin a good joke by taking it seriously, but that's 100% seriously the reason I don't own a gun. The next time I was sitting on my couch thinking about how shitty my life is and how much shit has yet to come would be the last.
I'm a huge pussy, anxious and afraid of unfamiliar things. I was the kid who'd lift one foot up to jump off the tall diving board but then hesitate and put it down again and then try again over and over, unable to finish, getting increasingly humiliated and self-hating as he stood there making an ass of himself while everyone watched. I'm not any different as an adult.
If I had a gun, though, I'd just need to get over my inhibitions for the single millisecond it would take to pull the trigger. And I only need to do it once. I get why so many suicides are associated with drugs and booze--sometimes all there is between being alive and being dead is that one thread of self-preservation, you know?
1 fuckup-nomore 2018-05-05
I feel ya yeah this was a joke thread but I feel ya. I could only kill myself if it was in the heat of the moment I’m scared of the unknown (death) what if its worst than real life?
1 AlexanderQadim 2018-05-05
I don't believe in any afterlife, but I'm still terrified of dying even though it doesn't make any sense. Obviously if you cease to exist you aren't around afterward like, "agh I don't exist and it sucks!", but it's still hard to even think about it.
1 evanthesquirrel 2018-05-05
You can only experience being. You can't experience not being. Whatever quirk about the universe that experiences being has been doing it for a lot longer than you or I have been alive and does it in many bodies one at a time and concurrently. It's nuts. But as I said, there is no knowing what not being is. Even if you are the only being that is was and ever will be, you will only know being. If you cease to be until the heat death of the universe you'll wake up in the next one whatever it may be. I don't think you'll have knowledge of this one, but many would argue you would.
1 bcat124 2018-05-05
Of course you can experience not being, and we all already did.
The universe has been around for billions of years before we were born. Know how that felt? Yep, that's what the after life feels like too: a complete lack of existence, painless too.
1 Unioncityblue2 2018-05-05
It's not painless, someone always suffers when you die. No one is nameless.
1 bobsbigbouy 2018-05-05
*assuming other people aren't figments of your imagination.
1 evanthesquirrel 2018-05-05
By experience I mean be aware of it. Or be conscious of it. It's kind of almost impossible to describe
1 HydradenitisSuppura 2018-05-05
If you aim right and use a large caliber. Hopefully don't just end up shooting yourself in the face and end up living, permanently disfigured and blinded/brain damaged etc.
1 bcat124 2018-05-05
Ain't that big of a difference from how I already am lol
1 Zyklon_Bae 2018-05-05
You jerk your gun hand away at the last millisecond...now you are still alive but with only one eye, and three teef. SWAT kills your dog/cat, and beat you into a coma. You awake in a mental institution...tied to a rusty old bed that smells like poop. @nofuture
1 Vrishkin 2018-05-05
A few millimeters are the difference between deadcel and vegcel
1 Zyklon_Bae 2018-05-05
Let's just all stage a massive 'LDAR-in'. You know, like a 'Love-In', but with less love, and more rotting.
1 InvalidGuessd 2018-05-05
fuck, this is very similar to myself. There was an instance a while ago where I wanted to purchase a firearm for personal defense, but I realized that if I had a gun in my house for over a couple months I probably would have killed myself already. So I decided to not purchase one out of fear.
1 AlexanderQadim 2018-05-05
Yeah, and what if you keep booze in the house too? I read somewhere that 30% of people who kill or try to kill themselves are drunk when they do it. It's easy to see how lowered inhibitions might be the thing that pushes you through that last bit of lizard brain self-preservation. I might not even be planning it, but if I got drunk, started thinking about how shitty my life is...it would only take a second.
1 rmullen522 2018-05-05
What I don't get is I would choose anything over suicide. Like instead of killing yourself why not move to a carribean island and just smoke weed and drink all day. Gotta be better than being dead
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1 justforlulzandkeks 2018-05-05
Because none of that shit interests you when you're suicidal
1 bobsbigbouy 2018-05-05
Yes I'm sure that one's life will be immeasurably improved by surrounding oneself with Blacks and Hispanics.
1 hara-kiri-enthusiast 2018-05-05
Piece of shit
1 bobsbigbouy 2018-05-05
Follow your name, friendo.
1 HobbitForest 2018-05-05
You underestimate how locked up your guns need to be. You'd have to get up, go to the safe, open it, go to another safe to get ammo, open that, remove the trigger lock, and then and only then shoot yourself.
1 AlexanderQadim 2018-05-05
I live in the US, there's no laws about any of that. When I was touring my house before I bought it, the current owner literally had 6 different rifles in his bedroom closet leaning against the wall.
1 HobbitForest 2018-05-05
Lol I have tons of locks and shit on my firearms ammo locked up separately.
Laws here are extremely strict for firearms.
1 asdasda5453 2018-05-05
im having a hard time coping, i cant get a girl and when i do she cheats on me. I mog most guys in every department possible, I dont know what more women want. Brothers I work with this muslim girl, i think i may convert to islam to be with her, islam seems to be the only way I can find a partner. Unfortunetly pol has psyoped me into being a neo nazi so this is a hard choice, I think whites have lost, our women are lose and we castrate ourselves. Goodbye west, hello islam.
Inshallah pbuh to you all
1 thatzombieoverthere 2018-05-05
Suicels.
1 turn_down_for_hwat 2018-05-05
/r/2me4meirl
1 SucculentMedjool 2018-05-05
You are worth worth than that my friend.
1 Prettyfly_whiteguy 2018-05-05
dammit, thought I'd be on that list.
1 fuckup-nomore 2018-05-05
Unlucky like usual
1 Pietkroon 2018-05-05
Careful Gaming is watching
1 womenshouldnotvote 2018-05-05
kill me first pls
1 HobbitForest 2018-05-05
-OP
Just kidding.
1 fuckup-nomore 2018-05-05
Do it no balls
1 Iswallowedafly 2018-05-05
What do you do great?
What skill could you teach me?
1 fuckup-nomore 2018-05-05
I could teach you how to workout
1 iQ9k 2018-05-05
whewlad
1 fuckup-nomore 2018-05-05
Y’all
1 AlexanderQadim 2018-05-05
I don't believe in any afterlife, but I'm still terrified of dying even though it doesn't make any sense. Obviously if you cease to exist you aren't around afterward like, "agh I don't exist and it sucks!", but it's still hard to even think about it.