I've been both ugly and handsome and you got it right
45 2018-04-04 by wasuglythrowaway
This is a throaway because between the info I'll give here and my post history it could be easy to dox me.
I know a big topic on this sub is how people underestimate the effect of physical attractiveness on how we're perceived as a person. I've decided to write this post because I've had the chance to live it all. I was a cute kid until my teenage ages, then I developed mandibular prognathism that together with my acne made me fairly ugly. I was still tall and had "pretty eyes", but overall I was just fugly. In my mid twenties I went through mandibular surgery and now I think I'm objectively handsome.
Honestly, this sub mostly has it right. Ugly me was always wondering if there was something wrong with my personality, if I was awkward, if I should do something different because I was so consistently ignored. If I behaved serious and quiet, people would not talk to me. If I was funny, people would manage to turn it against me, using my own jokes to laugh at me. Confident? Creepy. Trying being myself? Simply ignored. There was no wining scenario.
This worked for both men and women. Honestly I don't get the hate towards women on this sub, I had a hard time even getting and keeping male friends. If I didn't actively ask I was never invited to anything. When I was invited, I was mostly ignored. I could actually notice how people gave no fucks when I said something. My jokes would have to be fucking funny to get some genuine laughs. In the other hand, there'd always be some nice looking guy getting lots of attention and laughs basically from just existing. Yes, I was a virgin, but why should I blame women? I don't like ugly women either. I never did, even when I was ugly myself.
As you can imagine, now it's different. Now, sometimes I'm that guy who gets all the attention. I've had girls be attracted to me. I've had girls fall in love with me. I'm still bitter, to be honest. I never hated myself. In fact, I know that ugly guy who was always ignored and went back home feeling like shit after every social event was a smart guy, a funny dude and a fucking nice person. I'm bitter towards the world that allowed that guy to be misserable. I'm a cynicist regarding love. I'm still that guy, so when girls like me I can't help but feel that back then they wouldn't have. It's hard to love someone that you know wouldn't have paid you any attention before you had surgery.
81 comments
1 tikto109 2018-04-04
100%
I’ve been ugly bottom tier of the attraction ladder and chad status handsome after losing weight. Everyone who’s seen both sides of the coin knows how ugly and cruel this world really is. We’ve been black-pilled forever.
1 The_Real_Cannaman 2018-04-04
Enjoy life, some of us never will
1 LooksMatterToWomen 2018-04-04
Most people have never been on both sides of the fence, which is why they're so convinced looks aren't important.
1 d0kv5h1N 2018-04-04
Damn I need me some surgery.
1 prophetpepe 2018-04-04
I need some cyanide.
1 anincelforlifelol 2018-04-04
BRUTAL.
THIS IS WHAT FUCKING IDIOTS DON'T UNDERSTAND. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I MEAN. When I used to be a funny blue pilled guy people still would manage to turn it against me, because people are assholes and they do not like ugly people, especially ugly people with no status. It's just not fair.
Also this post confirms eye area theory as we all here know height is a factor:
This is a BRUTAL for pill for eyeareacels like myself to swallow. Just a reminder guys even if you get jaw surgery you'll still be fugly because your eyes are fugly. Your eyes are your main source of attraction. You need both however to look good, but this guy just confirms that all he did was fix his jaw and he looks good.
If all I did was fix my jaw I'd still be ugly because my eye area is 3/10. Easily. This is what a lot of incels here don't realize and that is why they're doomed. A lot of incels have awful eye areas. Coincidence? But they all just circle jerk to "muh jaw; muh chin" even though these are relatively easy procedures that don't cost that much money to make yourself look better, but even when you fix that, and your eye area still sucks then you're fucked.
1 CursedCel 2018-04-04
Droopy eyes are a death sentence. You always look slightly off, no matter how maxxed you are. It's fucking over.
1 m6ke 2018-04-04
Droopy eyes are the cheapest and easiest thing to fix with surgery.
1 throwaway-637 2018-04-04
Can I ask what's wrong with your eye area though?
1 The_Real_Cannaman 2018-04-04
Do they perform surgery on eyes?
1 iQ9k 2018-04-04
In Korea
1 The_Real_Cannaman 2018-04-04
So u look asian afterwards?
1 iQ9k 2018-04-04
Maybe maybe not. I just know that Korea had the most experience as a country when in comes to surgeries in the eye area. Go anywhere else and you might get your eye stabbed the wrong way
1 The_Real_Cannaman 2018-04-04
I'm already half blind so...
1 FinalFantasycel 2018-04-04
boohoo
1 GeneticCleansing 2018-04-04
thoughts on the guy on the right? kek
1 FinalFantasycel 2018-04-04
he looks like he mastered the art of showering and good haircuts. nice guy
1 GeneticCleansing 2018-04-04
He has a very good personality.
Jordan Barrett took the hyperbolic personalityshower.
1 BirtopiaReborn 2018-04-04
Thanks for confirming the blackpill 100%.
1 anincelforlifelol 2018-04-04
Yup. You need everything. Tall, good eye area, good lower third, good hair. Unreal.
1 BirtopiaReborn 2018-04-04
No you don’t, you just need a 3+ face, 2+ if you’re short.
1 anincelforlifelol 2018-04-04
"confirming the blackpill" yet writes stupid shit such as "Oh you just need a 3+ face to get women". Yeah...NO.
1 The_Real_Cannaman 2018-04-04
Even 5 is not sufficient at least in dis day and era
1 geneticwaste43 2018-04-04
Foids are brainlets that are TOLD what to find attractive and trendy by the media since they have no consciousness.
1 wasuglythrowaway 2018-04-04
Hmm no. The guy on the left will never be considered attractive. Neither will black ops cell. Neither will a guy that looked like Charles V like I did.
1 geneticwaste43 2018-04-04
In a time before sean opry and heman were jammed down every foids throat he might be. But this is also your own perception of male beauty polluting your mind. Maybe the guy on the right burns water when cooking. Maybe the guy on the left can skin a deer and provide food for months.
Valuable skills go by the wayside in modern vanity driven society.
1 CursedCel 2018-04-04
Thank you for cementing the blackpill brother. Maybe now these fucking normo cucks infesting the sub can shut up.
1 lpo33 2018-04-04
I've been on both sides as well. In high school I was fat and had acne/messed up teeth, but I still dated and was objectively popular. Not tall or "pretty eyes" either. Your self-doubt probably affected your personality more than you thought.
1 wasuglythrowaway 2018-04-04
It's impossible not to self-doubt when you're objetively being treated worse than the other people around you. You start wondering what you're doin wrong. If they don't pay atention to you, is it your entonation? should you just speak louder? If they turn your jokes against you, maybe you shouldn't try to make them laugh?
It's impossible not to self-doubt when you have no possitive reinforcement at all.
1 KidOblivion 2018-04-04
Welcome to the board.
First, I wanted to point out that most of us are social outcasts. Everybody here has severe cases of suicidal depression, social anxiety disorder, touch-hunger/starvation (if you believe that study. If you haven’t, look it up. Interesting study to say the least) and a lot of other mental health issues. While some of us are friends or can be friends with Chad, other people belittle us to fit in. They’re cancerous parasites with a mob mentality. Reminds me of our friends in IT.
1 wasuglythrowaway 2018-04-04
As I said in other post, it's very difficult not have social anxiety and be awkward when you never receive any possitive reinforcement from your normal behavior. You're gonna start second guessing everything you do.
It must take a lot not to develop some disorder or awkwardness when you are treated like that.
1 regular_failure 2018-04-04
Look is what matters the most.
1 watever_nvm 2018-04-04
Of course this place has it right, anyone with an IQ above 80 knows it does, Im not good looking but just being thinner was enough to notice differences
1 IncelSlayerZero 2018-04-04
I went through something similar, although it was technically my fault... Fat: no sex ever, not fat : girl actually chased me for sex, I literally did nothing, said nothing to her, she just wanted my cawk.
1 Zyros_ 2018-04-04
I too went fro good looking kid to ugly teen-early 20'er to decent looking adult. My life did a fucking 180 turn in every area with each looks change. As a male you are your looks.
One specially brutal thing is perceived intelligence. Both as a child and as an adult people consider me very intelligent deep and almost gifted. When I was ugly teenager people (including teachers) thought I was slow and not very intelligent. Ita fucking BRUTAL how looks shape everything about you.
1 iQ9k 2018-04-04
Lol hey zyros long time no see.
1 Zyros_ 2018-04-04
are you in incels.me? greets! im drunk
1 iQ9k 2018-04-04
Nah, I just recognize you from /r/incels. You knew me under different username
1 r4risbullshit 2018-04-04
lmfao
1 escapetheinceldom 2018-04-04
I remember him too. He was/is a framecel if I recall correctly.
1 tikto109 2018-04-04
Agree so fucking much dude. I went from a 2/10 subhuman to PSL 7.5/10 after losing weight. My whole life changed
1 Parara_papapapaVeis 2018-04-04
I wonder if trophy models think like that too, or just people that did plastic surgery and met they fiance after it.
1 wasuglythrowaway 2018-04-04
Once you go black...
1 The_Real_Cannaman 2018-04-04
I was too on both sides... Jk i ugly as sin
1 Northern_rebel 2018-04-04
I was very fat and ugly at school and was bullied mercilessly. In my 20s I became 'handsome' FWIW, and suddenly had friends and dates. But I still hate people because of it to be honest. They`re selfish shits. And the success with people that my looks gave me made me an objectively worse person, as I knew I could get away with. It's horrible, all told.
1 bcat124 2018-04-04
THIS is exactly what Im afraid off. After I graduate next year, im planning on spending all my economies on cosmetic surgery.
But I just ask myself, what would happen if I become handsome? Will all the bitterness disappear. I've felt so much pain I don't think I could let i go that easily. Its lik this shit changes you for life. I am and always will be blackpilled. Thats part of me forever.
1 Cock_Demon 2018-04-04
It will take a long time to resolve it, but tbh there will always be a shadow of it. Once you've been blackpilled on life you don't go back.
1 bigantennaemay1 2018-04-04
Once you go black, you don't come back.
1 tikto109 2018-04-04
it will disappear but your experience as an incel will NEVER go away.. The black pill stays with you and you see it in every part of your life.
1 wasuglythrowaway 2018-04-04
The bitterness will stay but you will be happier, I can tell you that. My social life is better than ever without putting effort and even though I'm now in my 30s.
1 tikto109 2018-04-04
this x10...I was treated like a fucking subhuman for being fat and ugly. I'm having the last laugh now
1 harambeazn 2018-04-04
Same
1 karamellkid 2018-04-04
You're not Chad. Prove it
1 tikto109 2018-04-04
pm me if u wanna see a pic
1 tikto109 2018-04-04
sure!
1 winnerswritehistory 2018-04-04
I’m not saying that good looks don’t have an effect on people wanting to be around you, but have you ever considered that you feel better about yourself in general when you’re more in shape/looking your best and that happiness radiates/attracts people?
1 LooksMatterToWomen 2018-04-04
After I fixed my looks, I still had very low confidence. All that did was make the women more aggressive.
1 DEPRESSION_IS_COOL 2018-04-04
Are you a fucking idiot?
1 Zyros_ 2018-04-04
no. thats a cope. I realized I became better looking after my life suddenly became much better in every aspect and it caught me by surprise.
1 genetic_scrap 2018-04-04
Not gonna lie, if I get better looking, I'm not sure if the bitterness will completely go away.
1 Cock_Demon 2018-04-04
It doesn't
1 kysacademy 2018-04-04
I know it wint for me. Ill just hate fuck girls, and im not sure I will be able to trust them.
1 LooksMatterToWomen 2018-04-04
It doesn't. I looksmaxxed and the way women behave changed dramatically, which only made me 10x as blackpilled, and frankly, far more bitter. Plain/ugly guys are being subjected to a sort of cultural gaslighting. They're treated like second-class human beings because of their appearance, then it's implied there's something they're "doing" wrong to be treated that way, and it's total bullshit. It's wrong. It's disgusting.
1 Zyros_ 2018-04-04
I actually became blackpilled after becoming better looking lol
1 zucctheducc 2018-04-04
Post this on inceltears
1 Lv100_BixNood 2018-04-04
Ignorance is bliss. Once you swallowed the blackpill it consumes you and never lets you go.
1 harambeazn 2018-04-04
Ever since looksmaxxing, my life has changed. people treat me better. but i deadass still need to fix my mindset. i felt more secure when i was ugly as hell for some reason.
1 slothsenpai 2018-04-04
Yeah same, I went through the first 25 years of my life thinking looks don't count, that I needed to be the most confident, funniest, smooth-conversationalist, intelligent guy in the room whilst being nice and sensitive. Now that I've lifted, gained muscles, abs, I get pussy whilst being a relative introvert and autist at heart.
And I see guys who are a lot more interesting than I am, funnier and genuine human beings who do not receive the time or day from other women.
1 genetic_scrap 2018-04-04
So gymcelling works?
1 Moist___ 2018-04-04
Gymcelling always works, get on it if you haven't, makes you feel good and helps facial asthetics
1 genetic_scrap 2018-04-04
Already on it. Figured I'd work on it a long time ago while I saved money for improving my face.
1 karamellkid 2018-04-04
Yea
1 dansgame___ 2018-04-04
Well it works unless you are horribly disfigured facially. For fat guys gymcelling gives you a more defined face as you lose bodyfat. For skinny and short guys the extra mass you build gives you a stronger presence.
1 SadIncel84 2018-04-04
Try to enjoy people treating you better now. You're right, it's not fair and it is really shitty. Maybe can just show people how shitty it is in social circles. Now that they treat you better and respect you.
1 dansgame___ 2018-04-04
Even after finally becoming attractive again you have realized how shitty other people are and you can never see them the same way again. If that is not the ultimate black pill I don't know what is.
1 prophetpepe 2018-04-04
This is what I hate about being an incel, knowing that I have to put in 10 times the effort in being smart, knowledgeable, funny, talented compared to literal retards who have been blessed with good genes. I know so many people who look good but have no talents, couldn't hold a decent conversation about anything except movies and celebrities, yet they slay all the time. A girl I know literally tells me I am the smartest person she knows yet she has friendzonemaxxed me (calls me a brother), on top of it she got into a long distance in front of my eyes with a guy who literally only does weed and other drugs most of the time. Only looks matter, only looks ever mattered and only looks will ever matter. Even in the remote 0.1% chance I do manage to get a girl or get into an arrange marriage (currycel), I will never be able to get this bad taste off myself, will never be able to trust a woman's words or even behavior around me. Everything is a lie, we can only know the truth about a woman when she's not around you. The effects of swallowing the black pill can never be undone.
1 prophetpepe 2018-04-04
If you can post pics, that'd be great. If not, we can understand. Thanks for the post, anon.
1 wasuglythrowaway 2018-04-04
I won't post pics of myself, but you can search for "prograthism before and after pics". Something like this but mine was worse.
1 Chinese_Crimson 2018-04-04
its over
1 SerialEL 2018-04-04
finally!! some honesty. its rare to find a genuine person around here. thanks for this awesome post.
1 Ntimidate 2018-04-04
But it’s all about the bones in your face I thought
1 wasuglythrowaway 2018-04-04
Mandibular surgery literally changes the bones in your face. It's about everthing, about how you look in general. Height, face, frame... some guys can rock a tough guy look, others a cute boy look. There isn't a single attractive look, but attarctive is attractive and ugly is ugly.
1 DEPRESSION_IS_COOL 2018-04-04
Amazing post and amazing replies!
1 CursedCel 2018-04-04
Droopy eyes are a death sentence. You always look slightly off, no matter how maxxed you are. It's fucking over.
1 throwaway-637 2018-04-04
Can I ask what's wrong with your eye area though?
1 The_Real_Cannaman 2018-04-04
Do they perform surgery on eyes?
1 Cock_Demon 2018-04-04
It doesn't
1 kysacademy 2018-04-04
I know it wint for me. Ill just hate fuck girls, and im not sure I will be able to trust them.
1 LooksMatterToWomen 2018-04-04
It doesn't. I looksmaxxed and the way women behave changed dramatically, which only made me 10x as blackpilled, and frankly, far more bitter. Plain/ugly guys are being subjected to a sort of cultural gaslighting. They're treated like second-class human beings because of their appearance, then it's implied there's something they're "doing" wrong to be treated that way, and it's total bullshit. It's wrong. It's disgusting.
1 LooksMatterToWomen 2018-04-04
After I fixed my looks, I still had very low confidence. All that did was make the women more aggressive.
1 wasuglythrowaway 2018-04-04
Mandibular surgery literally changes the bones in your face. It's about everthing, about how you look in general. Height, face, frame... some guys can rock a tough guy look, others a cute boy look. There isn't a single attractive look, but attarctive is attractive and ugly is ugly.
1 DEPRESSION_IS_COOL 2018-04-04
Are you a fucking idiot?
1 Zyros_ 2018-04-04
no. thats a cope. I realized I became better looking after my life suddenly became much better in every aspect and it caught me by surprise.