I feel you man. If a girls ever asked me if I wanted to go on a date with her, I will forever quit this sub and give up my current beliefs.

look around for the cameras

sperg out and let out a brutal black pill

jk I’ll probably cry

I'd drop all my spaghetti tbh

No, autismcel

It's a meme

You dropped your spaghetti fam

Just for laughs gags

Hey I love that show

Me too, man.

Ive been asked out by girls and guys. Its validating for all of 15 minutes, then you go back to your normal, self-loathing self.

You sound like a mentalcel.

Most likely. I

This its like eating, you gotta eat more than once

I would leave this sub if I got 1 compliment from a women irl.

No women would ever come up to you and say "you're really cute, wanna hang out" ever, especially the first time of meeting her.

She would say "wanna hang out", however she could well say " you're really cute" any other time after she gets to know you.

I would only leave if she was bouncing up and down on my boy. That has been said to me before and Chad won.

The only reason a femoid will walk up to me is if I had a million dollars she it had a gun.

probably not I'm a looks match and racist

Why does she have to walk up to You?

Don't give me some standard incel reply. I won't tell you be yourself, work out, shower, confidence, blah blah blah...

Women are not some strange alien species. They're people. They aren't these neurotic sociopathic monsters this sub makes them out to be. They are human beings and... shocker... just like the rest of us. I guarantee that girl you want to approach is just as scared and insecure as you.

Approach her and start a conversation... Don't be a creep... just do it and prove me wrong. She doesn't have to fall in love or sleep with you immediately but I bet you could have a more than superficial conversation.

It's not rocket surgery but it does take practice.

Holy shit you're obsessed. Find a hobby please.

Why do you have to walk up to her?

You don't. But it shouldn't be out of the question.

It could just be casual interaction.

Is this an American thing or what? Because here in Germany almost no one could approaches outside of contexts that are specifically made for that.

I am honestly intrigued by this.

Here (US) you can casually approach someone and start a conversation and not be seen as strange... for example, in a store, at an event like a concert, after a class, or even on the street... anything where you come into close contact with others you can at least start a casual conversation and not be seen as weird. It's literally how most of us meet.

I would like to hear how it happens in Germany.

Work (tread carefully), school/uni, bars and clubs, maybe hobbies. That's it, basically.

There's this stereotype of Americans we have here that they're very friendly and interested in small talk, but deep friendships don't really exist over there. Whereas it's the other way around here.

Deep friendships exist here absolutely and I've met a few of mine through casual interactions like I described.

Work and school... You tread more carefully of course because it is a more professional atmosphere but you can absolutely meet individuals you're close with... one of my closest friends is my old boss, we both have professional degrees and worked together for years.

I'm rambling but approaching someone here and starting a conversation is not out of the norm. Asking a woman out like that is perfectly acceptable. Even making a platonic friend in that manner is acceptable, in these incel subs it's stigmatized but in reality it's just normal. I know it's different here than Europe... briefly lived in the UK... We love small talk here but we strive for close friends and relationships and we aren't shy about pursuing them.

Women are not some strange alien species. They're people. [...] They are human beings and... shocker... just like the rest of us. I guarantee that girl you want to approach is just as scared and insecure as you.

I can't get into this mindset. The women I encounter storm around like the own the place, viciously confident, and look down on most men if they don't simply ignore them. Interactions with them begin with a look of either disgust, fear, or exasperation written plainly on their face. They're so stonewalled and defensive. I feel like I really am dealing with a difference species.

I'm not going to tell you you're wrong cause I don't know your circumstances, but where do you see this? I'm not exactly Greek God when it comes to looks but either you're dealing with some malevolent bitches or misinterpreting some basics regarding women.

Again, they're people. Like you and I. I'm not trying to belittle you or anything but they aren't that complicated or mysterious. Often times they are just as insecure and think the same things about men... seriously check out some of those subs it's crazier than here.

Gym, cafes, hiking trails, parks, beaches, shopping... out and about.

I'm not ugly, I'm very fit and make an effort to look as good as I can. But I just don't I meet the criteria for 'attractive man'. I believe this is why immediate responses are very cold. This is coming from someone who gets complements from random men.

Often times they are just as insecure and think the same things about men...

I know this is true yet I can't fathom it. Why would anyone who can command attention easily from men & women alike ever be insecure? That makes no sense to me; them being stone cold & egotistical makes perfect sense to me at least, and this is what I see out there daily, never insecurity or self-doubt. I think this is because they view most men, me included, as below them. They're only insecure around the men they put above them.

Exactly, females are never shy or insecure. Normies want incels to approach them, get rejected and feel bad about themselves, so their already low self-esteem is taken a few pegs down.

The women I encounter storm around like the own the place, viciously confident, and look down on most men if they don't simply ignore them. Insecurity nowhere.

Where are you encountering these women?

That's pretty unusual in my experience. If I'm in a group that includes, say, 10 women, maybe 3 will be like you describe. And at least 3 of the others will be entirely passive: never initiating anything, never talking to anyone unless they are talked to first. The remaining ones take social cues and be more aggressive or passive depending on the situation.

For those who aren't able to engage in high-level social sparring, you're doing a significant disservice if you focus on the aggressive group and pretend the others don't exist. There are plenty of them, and what they will accept from men varies greatly between individuals. It's not a monoculture.

Gym, cafes, hiking trails, parks, beaches, shopping... out and about.

you're doing yourself a significant disservice if you focus on the aggressive group and pretend the others don't exist.

I'll take this onboard; I may be guilty of it, I'm not sure. However, if I had certain physical traits, I wouldn't even have to parse or concern myself any of this and I would be much more warmly received.

What is rocket surgery? 😂

Hyperbole...

If women don't approach or do their gay little hints, it's over. Only Chad gets footsies and lip bites, only Chad gets hand touches and constant eye contact, only Chad gets checked out, only Chad gets actual approaches and conversations initiated by women.

If not, it's over. There's no point trying something when the result is painfully obvious. I'm not going to jump off a cliff in the hopes of flying (although I want to rn).

As a “normie” (probably not using that right) I’ve literally never had a woman approach me and say “you’re cute, let’s hang out”

It sounds like you’re all in love with this Chad guy and should try to get with him.

Yes id love to look like him, hell even a normie look would be great

More projecting from the normie

Normies continue throwing gay dudes under the bus without a care in the world.

When did I throw anybody under the bus? It sounds like many here would be happier being with chad and I fully support that if that’s their decision.

It doesn't sound like that at all, it sounds like guys want the behavior and attention from women that Chad gets.

Dude. They crave Chad more than women.

thaybmeans you are not too good looking. Just average enough.

Chad = archetype of attractive male, fyi

I don't know this Chad fellow but I've actually experienced this. Like I've said I'm no Greek God but I guess I'm just... great? You guys surely won't believe that but who cares, you're clearly not that bright anyway.

Why does he have to walk up to her?

Don't give me some standard inceltears reply.

Incels are some strange alien species. They're not people. They are these neurotic sociopathic monsters your sub makes them out to be. They are not human beings and... shocker... just unlike the rest of us. I guarantee that no girl wants to be approached by an incel.

Don't approach her and start a conversation... Don't be a creep... just don't do it to prove me wrong. She will probably report you for sexual harassment.

It's not rocket surgery but it does take practice.

Yeah you will by the reaction. Like I've said, most women are just as nervous to approach a guy.

I'd feel great, especially if I was into her. Unfortunately things haven't worked out for me too well overall, I've had successes, but I'm still here for a reason. I had one womyn interested in me and I did feel a little guilty posting here lol. But I still snuck onto the forums once in a while. Things fell through, of course, so I came back full time lol. Meh I wasn't that into her, anyway.

Is this sub /r/cantgetlaid

Essentially, yes, with a dose of teenage angst on top of it.

a very hefty large over dose

Agree

Lol if that happend i'd wake up imediatelly... On a serious note, hypothetically yes, life changed

I'd tell to shut up and getthefuckout

Volcel

mostly volcel, because I disagree to dating only other subhumans. In this case I'd not believe such bullshit, even chad rarely hears that.

Well in that I agree. That doesn’t usually happen and if it were me I’d find that suspicious.

Once you are blackpilled you dont go back.

If you abandon this kind of places just brcausr you got female attention, you were never truly blackpilled.

I have a normal and good life even very good for mid tier normie standards, yet the blackpill is still written in stonr with no room for copes.

I will believe that my personality keeps me incel as soon as all of my friends abandon me because of my "toxic mentality".

I can't really imagine that situation, that sort of thing doesn't happen in my country, they aren't forward like that.

sperg out and let out a brutal black pill

jk I’ll probably cry

You sound like a mentalcel.

This its like eating, you gotta eat more than once

I'd drop all my spaghetti tbh